Yes, I am very ambitious. Always busy, focusing on performance and juggling various activities. Saying no to opportunities is tough for me; I thrive on the momentum of going with the flow. To feel at peace each night, I need to end my day proud of my achievements—it validates my existence. Does this sound familiar to you?

I've learned the hard way that while it’s great to go with the flow, getting swept away without direction can lead to issues.

Are you investing too much time trying to align with an associate or partner and it just isn’t working? It might be better to say no to this partnership than to feel trapped.

Faced with a tempting offer? Ask yourself: if I hadn’t received this offer, how much effort would I have put into seeking it out? If you’re hesitating, feeling uncertain whether you would have pursued it at all, then perhaps it’s not right for you. Remember, if it’s not an enthusiastic yes, then it's a no. I'm learning this, and it’s truly liberating.

As you approach or navigate the empty nesting phase, this ability to say no becomes even more crucial. This transition period offers a unique opportunity to reassess what genuinely matters. As your daily responsibilities toward your children lessen, you might find yourself flooded with options to fill the void. Here, the skill of discernment—to pursue only those opportunities that align with your deeper goals—can transform this phase into one of liberation and profound personal growth. It's about shifting from external validations to internal fulfillment and embracing the freedom to choose paths that truly resonate with you.